There are pivotal moments in life that define us as individuals. Parenthood is one of those moments. We dream of the perfect pregnancy. We always picture delivering the perfect child- all ten fingers, ten toes, healthy and crying. Sadly, for many parents this is not reality.
When my husband and I decided we were ready to expand our family and have a second child, we never could have imagined the rollercoaster ride we were in for. Emmett Allan was born 14 weeks premature. At 1 lb. 13 oz., he was not yet ready for this world. With intense medical care, we were able to spend 10 weeks with Emmett before he passed away. He was taken from this world before he was due to enter it. The Empty Arms support group has helped me to come to a healthier place following the death of Emmett.
We never imagine when deciding to become parents that the journey may include such heartache. Some mothers never get the chance to hold their baby. Other mothers hold their child for only a short time. For many, there are never any reasons given or answers to their "why" questions.
Perhaps you also have experienced this heart ache as a parent, grandparent, sibling, aunt or uncle. If so, the Empty Arms Support Group would like to invite you to remember with us. October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day. Please join us for a candle light remembrance ceremony for your baby to be held at Belpre Park Shelter, corner of 4th Street and J Ave in Grundy Center at 7:00 p.m.
You can learn more about Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance at: www.october15th.com/
Cherish (Engelkes) Hansen
Iowa Falls, Iowa